Dr. Arminta Phelps, a chiropractor and the owner of Columbia’s Achieve Balance Chiropractic, has been a working mom for almost a decade.
Phelps opened her business when her son was a newborn, and for the first six years of his life, she was a single mom. Today, Phelps is married, and she remains the primary breadwinner of her household – a role she has come to love.
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
Missouri Business Alert: Do you think being a working mom influences your kids?
Arminta Phelps: There’s no way that the kids can’t see what it takes – the grit and the grind to be successful. … Kids learn by example. It’s statistically proven.
Hopefully if your parents are entrepreneurs, you’re going to be more of an entrepreneur. And I think that’s a big thing – being able to say “No, the world does not revolve around you, sweetheart. I do love you with everything that I am, but you’re not the center of everything I do, and that’s okay.”
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MBA: Do you experience “mom guilt”?
AP: I don’t think there’s a mom in the world that doesn’t deal with mom guilt. I think that learning to be aware and see it happening and not soak into it – to come above it and say ‘OK, I feel guilty for X, Y and Z, but how do I give myself permission to do what I need to be doing and not what someone else thinks I need to be doing?”
MBA: How do you combat mom guilt?
AP: I practice a lot of gratitude, and I do my very best to stay off social media to avoid comparing myself to other moms, specifically those in my industry.
MBA: How do you make time for yourself?
AP: Schedule it. There’s no other way. You gotta schedule it.
MBA: Do you have any advice for other working moms?
AP: Be gentle to yourself and enjoy the journey.